Who have you grown to be?

Many people feel that being alone is isolating and restrictive. I say it can be nurturing and liberating.

Often, we manage our lives, our behavior, even the expectations we set for our future based on what other people want or expect for us. Their ever-judgmental presence lurks as a foreboding shadow over our thoughts. Over our decisions. Our actions. Even, sometimes our dreams.

Without the imposition of other tainted opinion, we can reflect on our actions. Observe ourselves from a different perspective. Look back in a way that allows us to see ourselves in a clearer context. And determine if our past supports the future we envision.

Whether your solo situation is newly imposed, voluntarily selected or a self-affirming decision, the aloneness allows a freedom that others do not enjoy. We can navigate without the mask required when in the company of those who feel they ‘know best’ what is best for us.

Our aloneness allows us to see ourselves as we desire to be. Allows us to form affirming thoughts and supportive routines as a foundation for the life we strive to build: SaSS-Y!


Butterflies are my favorite animal. As a child, I always marveled at the transformation of the caterpillar into such wonderful creatures with bright, striking colors and delicately beautiful wings. These spectacular displays always warmed my spirit. Their flight seemed to serve as a message: there is light and life beyond.    

Indeed. There is a spectacular life, full of light for those willing to envision. To see themselves work their way through the darkness of the cocoon and emerge as a beautiful, glorious butterfly. That is the only thing required to live the Spectacular life. Just believe. See yourself as Spectacular. Move yourself through your life in a way that displays the fact that YOU FEEL Spectacular.

This is the key to your Spectacular life. Envision yourself as Spectacular. Look for brightness and move toward it with determination.   Step out of yourself and dawn a more colorful persona! 

Look out and up in wonder. Move forward with curiosity. Look back with pride. Spectacular!

To Be Continued…

Spring is here. The vaccine is available. People are scheduling events and making travel plans.  But for many others, nothing will change. Their actions will still be limited. They will still be living a solo existence.  For many – life will continue along the same path.

We also know something about that path for those living alone. Those along the Spectacular life journey will view the path much differently. We understand that living alone gives us the luxury of self-reflection on our own timeline.  The solitude gives us latitude to explore: our skills, our motivations, our fears, our shortcomings, our goals, desires, regrets, losses, our Spectacularness.

We know that our mindset draws out the Spectacular in us. We know that our determination to be so makes us Spectacular. We know that despite what may be going on around us, we will continue. We will continue to embrace. We will continue to explore. We will continue to celebrate. We will continue to encourage. We will continue to grow in Spectacular ways.

We will continue along the path of Spectacular. Happy Spectacular spring!